You’re a bright, curious woman who cares about making a beautiful world.
But instead of reaching for your big goals, your vital energy is mostly frittered away on the daily grind. You’re always recovering from the last thing, getting ready for the next thing, or handling all those other things that you didn’t ask or plan for.
On top of earning a living, you may be juggling the pressures of caring for kids or relatives, or challenges with your own physical and mental wellbeing. You’re trying to squeeze in interests and self care where you can... which is hardly at all.
“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday - but never jam to-day.”
– The Queen of Hearts
You started adulthood with big goals - happy kids, fulfilling career, creative expression. Now these seem to be constantly just out of reach. You’re not only frustrated, you’re genuinely worried about where this is going to lead if it carries on.
You’re ready for more focus, more engagement and a deeper sense of purpose on a daily basis. You’re done with chaotic execution, flying-by-the-seat of your pants and never having things quite how you need them. It's time to harness your energy, and direct it towards the things you really care about, long term, without burning out in the process.
That’s where I come in...
I identify as autistic and have many of the traits of ADHD, which means that while I’m near-genius level smart and have a degree from one of the best universities in the world, “getting things done” can be a huge challenge for me. For years I was ashamed of my sensitivity, disorganisation and the unique way that I process and respond to the world. The daily juggle of executing life, work and conscious parenting “like a normal person” very nearly broke me on several occasions.
What I have learned is that I’m not broken (quite the contrary), but I have different rules. The trick wasn’t to change me it was to change the rules. I had to start from first principles. It takes courage to execute my life according to what I know works for me - and to reject ordinary common assumptions and tactics. I’ve had to learn to say no a lot and to state clearly how I need things to be. Yet, the result is that things that were tripping me up, when managed right, have become powerful tools and wonderful gifts.
My coaching is the result of years of study, training, action-learning and real life experiments on myself.
I’ve been on a fifteen year journey to discover how to get through life gracefully - and how best to help others to do the same - with ambitious goals but limited energy, attention and focus. All this while still having something left for my beautiful kids at the end of the day.
I’m an NLP practitioner, have trained in Flow with Steven Kotler and am also trained as a connection and neuroscience based Hand in Hand Parenting instructor. I consult internationally and am based in Frome, Somerset.